Welcome to my first rant! From time to time I'll get on my soapbox and discuss issues that come to mind while I'm online in Second Life. Pray I don't start talking about politics, virtual or real, but don't be surprised when I do. The one thing I will ask you when I rant is that I'd like your thoughts. Am I making sense? Am I off base? Do I sound like I'm menstruating and just need to shut the hell up? Tell me what you think? But please, keep it clean and try not to be too much of a troll. While I like feedback on my opinions I don't like being called... well let's just say there's a lot. So if I hit a personal bone with you, please tell me I did and why, but keep the personal insults to yourself. I'd hate to have to delete your reply from the blog.
So on with the rant... taking a deep breath!
One of the interesting things about being a woman in Second Life is from time to time, having to answer the question "are you a woman in real life?". I don't normally get this question on a regular basis but once about every two to three months I do. I'm not sure why I do, I say I'm a woman in my profile. I say I'm a woman in this blog. Sedona sure looks like a woman to me. And still, I get this question.
I'm not naive to the fact that there are many female avatars in Second Life who have real life male counterparts. I've been friends with a few and they do a pretty good job of presenting themselves in Second Life as women. In all cases I treat them as women, I think of them as women and I respect the reasons that the man is playing a female avatar. So I'm also very aware that some of the females in Second Life are real life males posing as lesbians in hopes of obtaining some kinky lesbian sex. This applies to a lot of real life woman too. Having been in a real life lesbian relationship I can say that you can usually tell who has real experience in that area and who doesn't. Suffice to say there are a lot of female avatars in Second Life that are experimenting.
Now that my rant is off in the weeds on something totally off base, let me see if I can get back on track. So about the question of whether I'm a female in real life... why does this even happen? Why do people, mainly male avatars, ask me this? I can only surmise they think that some kind of real world connection may eventually happen. I find this extraordinary in the fact that I'm not looking for a real life relationship in Second Life. Coupled with age differences, distance, cultures, real world likes and dislikes, and lord knows what other complications come into play I find it rather unlikely that any life long soul mate would ever come from a random chance meeting in Second Life.
Having said that, in Second Life I do have a soul mate, Skiler or as affectionately call her, Sky. She is truly my one true love in Second Life. She and I do everything together, we are the best of friends. We also live very close to each other in real life but we both choose to keep Second Life separate from our real lives for many reasons of our own. The first being we love the fantasy and the companionship we have together in Second Life. Our eventual affection for each other was not a spur of the moment event. We knew each other for about eight months before we even thought about anything serious in Second Life. If I ever broke up with her I'm sure it would take some time for me to foster a connection with another virtual love. So I find the entire idea of "hoping" that some chance meeting on the grid will produce a real life romance and eventually a real life marriage, simply ludicrous. That kind of bonding takes time, even if it starts in Second Life.
So if the eventual real life hook-up is out, what other possibility is there? I can only think of one. The person asking, and again, it's usually a guy that's involved, is that they want to make sure before they ask me to bump ugly's with their pixels that I am actually a woman in real life. Now this intrigues me. Being somebody that plays on both sides of the street I have no comprehension for why this is the case. I can only surmise that the real life person, man or woman, has hopes that the female puppeteer behind Sedona is also getting off while performing the dirty deeds of pixel sex. And if the person behind Sedona wasn't the "required" sex and was STILL getting off, well then, that would be "just wrong". I guess in some peoples minds this would be considered gay sex?
What truly intrigues me is that the person asking Sedona if she is a woman in real life isn't having sex with the woman behind Sedona. They are having pixel sex with Sedona!! And I'm pretty sure regardless of what sex I am, she is a woman. If I did decide that Sedona would perform oral sex with a guy, does it really matter what my real life sex is? If I did a really good job describing my pixelated actions to my virtual lover does it really matter what sex I am? Apparently it does to some. And to be honest, I'm still at a loss as to why this matters.
But, I do have a solution. In these discussions I do get rather sassy about the topic. I shouldn't have to prove I'm a woman in real life any more then a hot sexy male avatar should have to prove that they are a hot sexy man, or even a man in real life. Do we ask furry avatars to prove they are furies in real life? Do we ask vampire avatars if they are vampires or child avatars if they are children in real life? I don't believe so. So, my solution is simple. If anyone ever asks me if I'm really a woman in real life my answer is yes. If I'm asked if I'm a man in real life, my answer is yes. If I'm asked if I'm anything in real life my answer is... yes. Because to be honest, I don't really give a damn what you think I should be in real life to make your libido rev up into overdrive. If Sedona's looks coupled with my personality and spirit isn't enough for you then move on brother. I know who I am, I know that I'm a woman and I know that I'm good with my sexuality when I'm with other men or women. Regardless of whether it's my real life or my second life.
And that's all I have to say on that matter. What are your thoughts on this?
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Saturday, October 22, 2011
Something more conventional
I'm still trying to find my way on how I want to present myself to the world. One thing I need to do is provide better quality photos. Let's hope this post looks better.
For this post let's skip the story line and just go with what I'm wearing here. What I like about this outfit is that I found a pencil skirt that actually works well in Second Life. When I stand it looks good, when I walk it looks good. When I dance, as long as I'm not dancing like a loon, which would be hard pressed to do in a pencil skirt, it looks good!
This outfit is simple, classy and traditional. It's not an in your face sexy look but more of an innocent cute look which I really like. I think every woman should have an outfit like this for those times when you just feel like looking nice, and nothing more.
The blouse from The Secret Store is really nice. It comes with prims for the shoulders to provide a puffy look and a prim for the waist. While the prims textures don't align the color and scale of the prim to the base shirt is just about identical and provides a really good look. The blouse is provided in all three layers of shirt, undershirt and jacket. All of the prims come with re-size scripts with an option to delete the script after you have the size right. The blouse set is mod/copy/no transfer which comes in handy so when you do delete those scripts you still have an original copy.
The pencil skirt from Milady's Fancy Gowns is one of the best pencil skirts I've found in Second Life to date. It has two versions actually. The pencil skirt shown and a longer skirt that covers the legs down to the middle calf. It comes in many colors so I'm sure you'll see more of this necessary item in the future. The one prim item that comes with it is this nice simple belt. There are no scripts with the belt but the entire skirt ensemble is also mod/copy/no transfer and it was a snap to just re-size manually and adjust the belt position.
The shoes were an amazing find at LeLutka. They don't come with the traditional re-size scripts but a hud is provided which allows you to adjust the skin tone and nail color. The soles of the shoes come in three colors and can be selected in the hud. The shoes come with a built in invisi-prim option or you can use the alpha layer, which removes the invisi-prim.
Overall I really like this outfit. It's definitely not the sexiest outfit in my closet but it is a great professional look. Since wearing it I've received many compliments about it.
OUTFIT ITEMS:
For this post let's skip the story line and just go with what I'm wearing here. What I like about this outfit is that I found a pencil skirt that actually works well in Second Life. When I stand it looks good, when I walk it looks good. When I dance, as long as I'm not dancing like a loon, which would be hard pressed to do in a pencil skirt, it looks good!This outfit is simple, classy and traditional. It's not an in your face sexy look but more of an innocent cute look which I really like. I think every woman should have an outfit like this for those times when you just feel like looking nice, and nothing more.
The blouse from The Secret Store is really nice. It comes with prims for the shoulders to provide a puffy look and a prim for the waist. While the prims textures don't align the color and scale of the prim to the base shirt is just about identical and provides a really good look. The blouse is provided in all three layers of shirt, undershirt and jacket. All of the prims come with re-size scripts with an option to delete the script after you have the size right. The blouse set is mod/copy/no transfer which comes in handy so when you do delete those scripts you still have an original copy.
The pencil skirt from Milady's Fancy Gowns is one of the best pencil skirts I've found in Second Life to date. It has two versions actually. The pencil skirt shown and a longer skirt that covers the legs down to the middle calf. It comes in many colors so I'm sure you'll see more of this necessary item in the future. The one prim item that comes with it is this nice simple belt. There are no scripts with the belt but the entire skirt ensemble is also mod/copy/no transfer and it was a snap to just re-size manually and adjust the belt position.
The shoes were an amazing find at LeLutka. They don't come with the traditional re-size scripts but a hud is provided which allows you to adjust the skin tone and nail color. The soles of the shoes come in three colors and can be selected in the hud. The shoes come with a built in invisi-prim option or you can use the alpha layer, which removes the invisi-prim.
Overall I really like this outfit. It's definitely not the sexiest outfit in my closet but it is a great professional look. Since wearing it I've received many compliments about it.
OUTFIT ITEMS:
- Skin: Belleza - Erika Med 0 Hair
- Lips: Belleza - Erika Med Lips 2
- Lip Gloss: Blacklace - ~BB~ Clear Lip Gloss
- Blush: cheLLe - Everyday Blush 3
- Hair: Curio - Lovely - Wheat Blonde
- Necklace: Ashira's Aerie Juliet Heart Locket Pendant
- Earrings: Blaze - White Pearl Earring Studs
- Bangles: Ali Couture Pink Swirls Bangles
- Blouse: The Secret Store - Puffy Blouse - Lilies Teal / Coral
- Skirt: Milady's Fancy Gowns - Moneypenny Pencil Skirts - Taupe
- Shoes: LeLutka - Mischa in Sienna
Sunday, October 16, 2011
Clubbing in all of the wrong places
Getting off of the subway I knew something was wrong. This part of town just didn't look right for the club I was heading to. I was supposed to meet my girlfriends and they told me this was the stop. But looking up and down the dingy street a shiver came over me. This can't be right.
My girlfriends wouldn't do this to me, this had to be the right stop. My few choices were simple, turn back around and get back on a train, or take a walk and find the club. My desire for fun overcame my common sense and off I went heading down the street. The "tap tap tap" from the heels of my boots echoed off of the stale and unkempt buildings as I made my way down the dingy sidewalks that lined the empty street. Suddenly I realized how I was dressed and how everybody was looking at me. A sudden sense of panic rose up in me and I looked for a door to duck inside, but where?
My pace down the sidewalk quickened and my boots signaled this to the locals with their pronounced cadence. I could tell that I was prey here. Soon my pace was almost a run when a small group of young men materialized a few block in front of me. I immediately turned the next corner and just about crashed into a group of streetwalkers. As I moved through them I was harassed by the ladies, telling me this was their corner and to find another place to stand. My god, they thought I was a common prostitute! Why would they think that I'm one of them?
As I made my way a few more blocks I saw a Waffle House on the corner. Thinking any port in a storm I rushed inside. Now as far as Waffle Houses go this place was... to be honest... a dump. But it was warm and seemed safe for the moment. I sat down and ordered some coffee. The waitress looked me up and down asking me if I was local. I smiled and explained to her my situation. A grin came upon her face as she listened and when I was finished she recommend I stay with her at the restaurant until morning.
As I sat there looking out on the street from inside the people walking by were looking back at me. A small crowd started to gather in front of the building. Some of the boys I saw earlier were part of the group. The waitress made a call and almost immediately police showed up and had them disperse. One of the officers came inside and came over to me. He explained that a working girl like myself should be more careful. Muttering to myself, I explained that I was not "working" at which point his eyebrows raised and something about a "crazy bitch" was muttered from his lips. Surely he wasn't talking about me was he?
The rest of the night was uneventful and I spent it watching local restaurant patrons come and go. Some came and talked to me, many offered me cash for any services I may provide. As the waitresses shift ended so did the night. The morning sun was rising and she offered to take me back to the subway station. As we made our way there I made a note to myself that the next time I wear this outfit, I'm taking a cab.
SHOT LOCATION: The Warehouse District - Urban Roleplay City, ParadiseView
OUTFIT ITEMS:
My girlfriends wouldn't do this to me, this had to be the right stop. My few choices were simple, turn back around and get back on a train, or take a walk and find the club. My desire for fun overcame my common sense and off I went heading down the street. The "tap tap tap" from the heels of my boots echoed off of the stale and unkempt buildings as I made my way down the dingy sidewalks that lined the empty street. Suddenly I realized how I was dressed and how everybody was looking at me. A sudden sense of panic rose up in me and I looked for a door to duck inside, but where?
My pace down the sidewalk quickened and my boots signaled this to the locals with their pronounced cadence. I could tell that I was prey here. Soon my pace was almost a run when a small group of young men materialized a few block in front of me. I immediately turned the next corner and just about crashed into a group of streetwalkers. As I moved through them I was harassed by the ladies, telling me this was their corner and to find another place to stand. My god, they thought I was a common prostitute! Why would they think that I'm one of them?
As I made my way a few more blocks I saw a Waffle House on the corner. Thinking any port in a storm I rushed inside. Now as far as Waffle Houses go this place was... to be honest... a dump. But it was warm and seemed safe for the moment. I sat down and ordered some coffee. The waitress looked me up and down asking me if I was local. I smiled and explained to her my situation. A grin came upon her face as she listened and when I was finished she recommend I stay with her at the restaurant until morning.
As I sat there looking out on the street from inside the people walking by were looking back at me. A small crowd started to gather in front of the building. Some of the boys I saw earlier were part of the group. The waitress made a call and almost immediately police showed up and had them disperse. One of the officers came inside and came over to me. He explained that a working girl like myself should be more careful. Muttering to myself, I explained that I was not "working" at which point his eyebrows raised and something about a "crazy bitch" was muttered from his lips. Surely he wasn't talking about me was he?
The rest of the night was uneventful and I spent it watching local restaurant patrons come and go. Some came and talked to me, many offered me cash for any services I may provide. As the waitresses shift ended so did the night. The morning sun was rising and she offered to take me back to the subway station. As we made our way there I made a note to myself that the next time I wear this outfit, I'm taking a cab.
SHOT LOCATION: The Warehouse District - Urban Roleplay City, ParadiseView
OUTFIT ITEMS:
- Skin: Belleza - Erika Med 18 Hair (cleavage)
- Hair: Analog Dog - Cafe, platinum. I added bangs from Yum, platinum
- Blush: cheLLe - Everyday Blush 1
- Jewelry: Bandit - Akita Black Pearls Set
- Corset: J's Lace-Up Corset
- Skirt: Naima - Leather Skirt, Black
- Belt: Bax - Leather Belt M
- Boots: B&G - Bota Eternity
Another Fashion Site?
Hi.
Is this going to be just another fashion site? Well yes and no. I have a lot of outfits that I've been told I should write a blog about. Well, I'm taking that advice and writing a blog. But being the opinionated bitch that I am I also will provide some insight into my life in Second Life. I'll try to keep it honest which means some of you may get very upset with what I have to say. Deal with it.
An now for your viewing pleasure. Sedona's Altered State.
Is this going to be just another fashion site? Well yes and no. I have a lot of outfits that I've been told I should write a blog about. Well, I'm taking that advice and writing a blog. But being the opinionated bitch that I am I also will provide some insight into my life in Second Life. I'll try to keep it honest which means some of you may get very upset with what I have to say. Deal with it.
An now for your viewing pleasure. Sedona's Altered State.
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